Milder Autism Is Rising Far Faster Than the More Severe Type, Study Says

A new study shows the rate of “profound” autism is rising, but not as quickly as milder autism.
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7 Myths About Kidney Cancer, Debunked

A lot of what you think you know just isn’t so. Here’s the truth.
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What to Know About Damar Hamlin’s Heart Event, Commotio Cordis

The cardiac incident, commotio cordis, nearly took his life.
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Democratic States Are Stockpiling Abortion Pills to Preserve Access

While mifepristone’s legal status is worked out in the courts, some states are taking steps to maintain access.
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FDA Clears Second Bivalent COVID-19 Booster for People 65 and Older

Older adults can get another bivalent booster at least four months after their first dose, the FDA says.
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My wife only wants sex after drinking – and I feel rejected and frustrated

Our sex life has waned since having a child, but now when my wife initiates intercourse it is always after alcohol. Should I give up trying?

My wife and I are in our 40s and have a teenage son. Before we had our son we had a very active sex life and each of us would initiate almost daily: we would share fantasies all the time. After childbirth it waned, understandably, but in recent years it has dwindled to almost nothing. We both work from home and she often asks me to massage her body at night, but this virtually never leads to sex. I find it hard to initiate now, as when I do she rejects me. She has initiated a few times in the last six months, always after alcohol. When we have sex it is still good, but it feels as if she only wants it after drinking. When I have raised this she has been defensive and suggested we have a normal sex life for our age. Should I give up on the idea of regular sex and accept that satisfying myself in the bathroom is now the norm?

Paradoxically, being very close to someone can lower the erotic charge. Many couples who spend all day and all night together experience lowered sexual interest. Find ways to spend time apart, perhaps pursuing separate interests such as a class or sport or hobby. Enjoying solo time with friends can also help. Experiencing oneself as an extension of another person can feel safe and cosy, but it is unlikely to inspire passion in either of you. It is only when each partner can view the other as a separate entity – as things were at the beginning of the relationship – that attraction and libido can be revived. And don’t worry about the alcohol use – unless it’s excessive. There’s no need to take it personally – your wife is just trying to relax and get herself “in the mood”.

Pamela Stephenson Connolly is a US-based psychotherapist who specialises in treating sexual disorders.

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How Doctors Inadvertently Fat-Shame Kids

Pediatricians need to know how much kids weigh, at least periodically. But often they bring their anti-fat bias to the exam room.
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The Latest Promising Long COVID Treatment? Psychedelic Drugs

Scientists are studying whether psychedelics, like psilocybin and MDMA, could help treat Long COVID symptoms.
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Minnesota Settles Vaping Lawsuit Against Juul

The terms of the settlement will be kept confidential until papers are publicly filed with the court in 30 days.
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Scottish Power caused me distress after my father’s death

After he died it sent emails addressed to him, and I’ve been threatened with debt collectors

I am contacting you in desperation about the serious problems I am having dealing with Scottish Power after the death of my father last year.

When I notified it of AJ’s death back in September it closed his account and promised a cheque for his credit balance would be posted to me. Continue reading…
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